Honestly, I have debated on writing this post for about a month. I have gone over and over it in my mind. What to say and how to say what all is happening in my life is kind of difficult. The main reason is that God has given me a special gift over the past few weeks that I just needed time to process myself I guess. Today, I’m ready to share my secret with all of you.
I’d like for y’all to meet Bo.
Actually, this is me and Bo…bowling with our kids and our friends. I honestly can not say how much I have enjoyed getting to know him over the past few weeks. We met through mutual friends and we have laughed until our sides hurt…a lot. I realize that this is shocking to a lot of folks…heck it’s shocking to me too! LOL
I have decided that God works things out when and how He wants to and as unprepared as I am to accept His timing sometimes…I am grateful for His blessings. I have come to the full conclusion that life is for the living. We are made to enjoy and live each day to the fullest. Bo is a big reason that I am willing to look forward to each new day at this point in time. It feels great to really laugh again.
I have been very cautious and secretive about this amazing person for several reasons. One, I had to figure out how I felt about talking to someone new. Second, I had to decide if we (me and my girls) were ready to take this step forward. Third, I had to talk to my parents and Greg’s parents to get their opinions. I did not go into this blind or without caution. I want to be respectful and honest with them always. After in depth conversations, I come to the conclusion that I was ready to go out with someone new and it was OK to be excited about it!
Greg and I had numerous conversations about this before he died. You don’t get seven heart stints and NOT have some pretty deep discussions with your spouse about life after he/she passes away. I know exactly what Greg wanted me to do…and I have finally realized that it’s up to me to do it. As much as I would love for him to; Greg is never going to walk back through my door. He isn’t coming back and I can’t have the life back I had before September 20, 2015. I have no choice but to move forward with my life without him.
And, out of nowhere here comes Bo. All I know to tell you is that he is a wonderful man, a fantastic father, and he makes me laugh every day. What else could I ask for? At the moment, that’s all I need. I’m not sure what the future holds, but for now get used to seeing me with him around town. I am sure the smile on my face will tell you a lot if you look for it. This is life…and I am determined to make the most of it.
So…to all of you gossiping people go ahead and gossip. Go ahead and say things like, “It’s too early” and “I can’t believe she’s already dating” and “Does she even realize what she’s doing”. Go ahead…because if you have walked in my shoes I would LOVE to hear what you have to say, but if you haven’t the gossip coming out of your mouths will be entertaining to listen to I am sure. Honestly, I don’t give one rip what anyone has to say except for the people I have already talked to and I feel 100% ready for this new beginning. If anything, I hope people will see that life is worth living and God provides exactly WHAT we need exactly WHEN we need it. And, I could not be more thankful!
I see a whole slew of crazy, fun posts in the future! There is a whole lot of life to live…so let the good times roll!
Telling My Story Today 
I am very happy for you, sweetpea! Ythou deserve to be happy
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Oh Emily! This is Great! Congratulations to you, Bo and the children! May God bless you all!
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Emily, you don’t know how happy it makes me to see that smile on your face. You deserve to be happy. So, to heck with what some people will say. God put him in your life for a purpose so you just go out and enjoy every day. I love you girl.
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Good for you. Live and love on, girl. 😘
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Em,
People are going to gossip no matter what; but, you are right….it absolutely does NOT matter what the gossipers are saying…..YOU and your girls are the ones who matter most!!! Anyone who knows you and cares about you wants you to be happy…….YOU and the girls deserve a life of continued happiness!!!! Keep on smiling that beautiful smile of yours!!! I am happy for you!!! Love you my sweet & beautiful friend!!!
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Love you, Emily. It’s not too early. You follow your heart and follow peace. Don’t let people’s gossip bother you. People believe and say what they want. You are living your life, not them.
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Happy for you all!!
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Sweet Emily – You had a life with Greg that you loved. But, as you said, he’s not coming back as much as you would like for him too. So, you have to live your life and make decisions for you and your girls only. I have a cousin that married 6 months after her husband died. She loved him husband much and was lost without him. She met this second husband thru her brother, just a casual meeting, but they talked and enjoyed each others company. So they decided that life is short, enjoy it. She said it’s a different love than she had with her first husband, and that he is a different personality from her first husband. But that is why she could move on with him. Her step children had a fit! But if they truly knew her, they would have known how much she loved their father and would have been happy that she could go on with her life. You live your life. You enjoy your life and as you say, don’t give a RIP about what anybody says. No body will replace Greg, but you aren’t looking for a replacement. You are looking forward to a different life and this will include different people. Thinking of you often and enjoy reading your blogs. Take care and stay true to yourself. Love you – Jan
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Thank you!!!! You don’t know how much I appreciate your sweet message!
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I am so proud of you. This was a hard step to take. I can remember saying over and over when Danny died ” this isn’t how it’s suppose to be”. Like you , I thought I would never live without aching with every breath and like you The Lord sent me the greatest blessing . Also like you , it was only months after Danny passed that I received my blessing. It was 7 months after Danny died that I started dating Kevin and 5 1/2 months later we were married. So again like you I was the object of gossip. No one knows what it feels like to have your best friend , your partner, the person you want to grow old with taken from you. You did not choose for this to happen but you have to live your life for you and your children. No one should grow old by themselves. I’m so happy you have found someone to make you smile .
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Thank you Stephanie! I have thought about you so many times! This whole thing is unbelievable in so many ways. I am just so thankful to know that real laughter is still possible. I thought it was gone forever. This new life is strange, but exciting. Its weird to admit that, but its true! I appreciate your comment sooooo very much!!
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